I’m thinking about home again today, and the tenuous line between fight and flight. I feel right here, I feel as though I belong in Ballyvaughan in this moment, and the first half of my trip has been fruitful, but I worry about getting in my own way.
Being here has made me gentler, in a way; more vulnerable, and more loyal to the people that I love back home. I’ve spent the evening thinking about how important it is for me to be a decent person: to everyone, to send good into the universe, to be just in the eyes of God, to be loved unconditionally by my closest friends and my family. I don’t want to go back to a version of myself, though, much improved, is not as good as I know I can be.
I had a panic attack tonight in front of someone else. I cried as well. I fell victim to taking a Klonopin because I knew it would physiologically register in my body so that I could breathe normally, talk normally. I was ashamed of having such a lack of control over my body, the vessel for my spirit, which I have been tending so well, and nourishing with fresh country air on long walks and by avoiding things like cigarettes and heavy drinking and other self-destructive habits. I was afraid, too, that it would seem insincere, because there was someone to witness it. I hate the idea that someone would think I am in favour of dramatics. I am mortified.
Tonight is a night to contemplate humility. I speak a lot about removing Ego. My work doesn’t contain my ego, and when R insulted my talent, and my position as an artist a few weeks ago, it wasn’t just a feminist struggle and the re-emergence of the topic of being “beautiful” and a “woman” and all at once an “artist” that begged to be taken seriously as such. It was also about Ego. For that I am ashamed, and will continue to feel embarrassed over for a while yet, particularly after being called out about it. Perhaps I’m mostly ashamed because it took someone else to call it out for me. Being ashamed of that unawareness is, once again, the rearing of my Ego’s ugly head. The cycle continues. I need to break it, for myself and for my sanity.
Graduate school is the next step; it needs to be the next step so that I can make it as a professional artist and as a teacher. Everyone I’ve spoken to here (two peers and a professor) seem to think it’ll be, in their words, “no problem” for me to be accepted into a graduate school. How is it that relative strangers can be certain and yet I’m so wracked by fear and doubt?
It comes back to the notion of standing in my own way and wrestling with the new duality I’ve discovered in myself while being here, musing over my work, spending time alone, spending time with friends, out and about and charismatic with makeup done up and a swing in my walk. There is Persona, and there is Personality. And Persona, who is loud, and charming, and commands a room because it’s her job to do so, she is all intellect and a little bit of magic. Personality is all intuition and feeling; she wants to run away into the woods and lie in the grass with sheepdogs and talk to a horse. Personality is true nature, all heart and a hint of Slavic melancholy (which is something all Slavs possess, I am convinced). And Personality wants less and less to deal with people. She would rather arm herself against it, so as not to speak and suffer a verbal or social misstep. Personality is getting worse at dealing with human beings, which is probably why she spends time communicating with the trees and the bumblebees in the language of silence. It’s freer. It’s more honest. There is no Ego there. Nothing to trip her up.
Tuesday, I wrap everything I’ve made and ship it home. Maybe I’ll keep these love letters:
But everything else? Everything else flies home. It’s harder to think clearly in the studio, with all this energy stacked up on a wall; these invented stories, they murmur among themselves and breathe against my back. It’s time I returned to myself. Tuesday I pick up my brush and no voice, mine or otherwise, will bring me out of my self-induced spell.